When we shop for clothing, accessories or even make up – do we buy things to keep up with the latest trends, or do we buy to honour our own personal style? Do we buy things that support us or do we buy things that purely look good, or happen to be the latest trend? Do we even know what it means to buy things ‘that support us’ (I’m not just talking about a Berlei sports bra!).
By support I mean - does our clothing sit well on our bodies, feel comfortable to move in, confirm the woman you are, reflect your own inner beauty, keep you warm, allow you to move in the way that you need to move in in those clothes, do not grab or pinch or make you feel uncomfortable? Does our make up feel nice on our skin, match our complexion and confirm who we are, or does it leave your skin feeling dull, damp, itchy, blotchy? Are we wearing lip colours that feel right for us and suit us, or are we wearing the latest shade of red that we saw someone in a magazine wearing? & when it comes to accessories – do we wear things that reflect and confirm the woman we are, or do we wear things to make us stand out more, embellish us, take away from our natural beauty or perhaps don’t even suit us?
These are interesting points to ponder. We are so often fed pictures and images of who a woman is supposed to be, what we should be wearing and unfortunately, more commonly these days – what we shouldn’t be wearing. There are magazine pages dedicated to rating, naming and shaming women for their choice of garment at a particular awards night.
Be it from magazines, TV, movies, billboards, our mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, our circle of friends, partners, – we are given constant messages about who we should be as women and what we are supposed to wear and look like.
This is translated not only into the way we dress, the accessories we choose or the way we wear our make up, but in fact, our every movement, thought and action. Our lives become dictated by these images and ideals and leads us into an endless rat race of trying to fit these – at the constant expense of our own selves and what feels true for us.
Feels like a pretty miserable way to live to me.
What if, there was a way to live where you could say ‘to hell with the expectations, this is me, and I’m going to make my every movement a commitment to honouring me, to going deeper with my relationship with me – understanding myself more’ and every movement, action, thought, purchase etc – comes from that?
How would that impact the way that we moved? How would that impact the purchases we made? How would that impact our clothing/makeup/accessory choices?
In Part 2 of this series, we will explore this topic further…